Where Do You Stand As A Couple?

 

Ever wonder, what it takes to get the two of you together?

 

If you're trying to get your partner to make a commitment, there's good news and bad news.

 

The good news is that you can stop trying to sweet-talk, manipulate, or pressure him into proposing. The bad news is that there's nothing you can do to speed up the process. People fall in love and get married every day.

 

But men have their own biological clocks. When they're ready, they head down the aisle -- but not a moment sooner.

 

In order to help you figure this out, there are 8 subtle, sacred moments that can catapult your relationship to the next level. Read -- and look out for the signs!

 

 

 

Get Real

Often we tolerate aspects of our relationship or partner, because the foundation seems too risky to crack. But once things feel more stable, it’s time to get real. The next time you let your guard down and being more open is going to allow you to get closer. When you start getting real, in a relationship. It’s kind of a relief.

 

This reveals your true level of intimacy. It means that things have moved from the fantasy of courtship to a real relationship, warts and all. Being more honest is a step in the right direction of an authentic relationship.

 

 

 

 

Introducting Each Other

Up until this point you haven’t known exactly what to call each other, when you’ll subject him to your besties. You know the game has shifted, once you start calling him your boyfriend, or being labeled as his girlfriend.

 

Having the pride to give what you two have going on a name, is another level of intimacy. Once you both say those words out loud, this makes it real. This is one way to learn that you are a solid item with your partner. It’s an excellent way to go deeper into the next phase of your love bond.

 



 Meet The Family

Another part of it, is expect him to take you for whatever the event is. The bottom line is that he’s introducing you to his family and showing you where he comes from.

Sometimes meeting the family provides feedback about the person you’re dating. You may see characteristics about him being expressed you never saw before. How we are with our biological families can speak volumes about how a person really thinks, feels and behaves.

Sometimes these visits are the key to unlocking greater love and intimacy. Or they can backfire and send you packing.

 

Silence Is Golden

In real life, it’s the smaller moments - the comfortable silence. You can actually relax and just be with each other…which then allows you to access a whole other layer of intimacy. When you share a moment like this, you’re now receiving -- and accepting -- the trueness and longevity of your connection.

It’s probably the biggest way a couple knows they are just naturally, effortlessly…together. Instead of thinking up a topic for discussion, you realize that it’s okay to just be  ‘you’. Is what signifies the seriousness of a relationship.

You’re not concerned with filling up the silences with words to try and prove to yourself that you are connected. That comfortable silence is significant, because it demonstrates that you have security in your relationship.

Attending A Wedding Together

An equally important milestone, if he's getting up the guts to ask you to accompany him to a friend’s wedding. This is likely a coming out party for your relationship. It announces that he’s serious -- about Bringing up heavy topics like marriage and forever-ness.

 

The sheer emotionality of attending a wedding can provoke a deep emotional response. Ceremonies can evoke spiritual connections. Plus, watching people you care about take vows can turn into an emotional moment for the two of you.

 

Often couples in the dating mode find that it  ‘triggers’ a reaction of ‘where does that leave us’? Be aware of the feelings that surface and use them for learning more about your own relationship.

 

 

 

That Blowout Fight

It’s unrealistic to think you’ll never have a blowout fight, if you’re going to be with someone for a long time. It shows you’re in touch with reality, and that you are willing to communicate and listen to each other, and do the work to get through it.

All couples have fights, even nasty ones that include hurtful words, threats and objects thrown on. But the type of fight that happens, is usually the kind that calls your entire relationship into question -- and makes the two of you think long and hard as to whether you should put in the effort or call it quits.

Working through a big blowout fight can show that you both are choosing to stay together and are willing to address any issues that arise. This will be a ‘true test’.

Facing Tragedy Together

Facing a tragedy as a couple allows you to experience a greater appreciation of what you have together. It allows you to observe how you’ll each be there for one another in a profound and compassionate way during hard times.

When you’ve been together for years, you’re bound to face some type of tragedy, such as a death or difficult situation. But now, you’ve been together long enough to really lean on each other.

If you make it through each other’s expectations, you’ll know you can get through almost anything with your partner by your side.

He’s Part Of You

The time before the years you’ve now been together doesn’t seem to exist and all your best memories include him. You suddenly feel like he is  ‘you’. This is the moment you become aware that your guy is someone that you ‘chose’.

 

It’s a big step forward when you realize, that it’s not about the family you were born into or raised with. But about the family you two are creating and have chosen.

PS : If you’re not secure and confident enough to know in your heart, what you need and want in a relationship, and are asking others their advice. Then, you should rethink things.

The fact that you’re asking outsiders what they think, is a sign in itself that you may know the real truth about it, but are looking for reassurance about the decision you know you need to make. That's not to say it'll never happen.

In the meantime, it's not possible to convince a commitment-phobic person, that you're the best thing that will ever happen to them. Even if you are! Instead, your best bet is looking for someone who doesn't need convincing.