Long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. You’ll need to look inside yourself and be sure that you’re ready to deal with this level of commitment. As anyone who has ever been in love with someone who is more than a quick trip away will tell you, long distance relationships suck.
Just like any proximal relationship, they require dedication, communication, patience, trust, and of course, compatibility. But in today’s globalized and high tech world where we work, study and play in different countries, cities and states.
Long distance relationships are more and more common and couples everywhere are able to maintain healthy relationships long distance. There are a host of factors to consider when embarking upon long-distance relationships.
If you are currently in an international long distance relationship, here are 12 tips to help your relationship survive.
1. Set Rules
Worried about being a nag if you "set rules" for your relationship? Think again. A study that claims 70% of Long Distance Relationship couples who don’t set rules end their relationship within six months. Be realistic in your assessment of this relationship timetable.
3. Talk About It Beforehand
Ask the important questions, like whether or not they’d be willing to relocate if the relationship grows more serious. Although it may seem awkward, it’s best to also set the ground rules for whether or not you’ll be dating exclusively.
4. Don’t Be Controlling
This will just drive your partner away. Being in a long distance relationship requires extreme trust, and it can take time to build. Trying to rush through an experience, even for a relationship, is a good way to build up unhealthy levels of stress.
5. Raise Your Trust Level
Again, it takes a lot of trust to maintain a successful Long Distance Relationship. When living a great deal of your lives away from each other in a long distance relationship, it’s natural that you may start hearing about some of your partner’s new friends — don’t be overly paranoid and suspicious. Do keep your eyes open, but don’t be naive.
6. Communicate Daily
This is extremely important! The quality and quantity of communication with partner will need to increase substantially when you embark on long-distance relationships. Try closing the gap with video chat such as Skype.com or TokBox.com.or Call one another at least every two days, and feel free to text, email, and tweet to fill the voids.
7. Be Positive
Have hope ! Don’t focus on the negative aspects of your long distance relationship, because, let’s face it: They’re not always fun. It’ll make things worse. Use the time apart to grow personally — explore your hobbies and and interests. Exude positive energy to keep your partner’s spirits up, too. It’s all about weighing the ups and downs associated with what you want from your life.
8. Care Packages
Send your partner a care package while they’re away to show that you’re thinking of them. It could be as simple as a letter with photos. You should also send them away with some kind of object that reminds them of you, like a shirt — smell is a powerful sense that triggers memories. There are even collections of long distance relationship quotes and inspirational stories that you can use to infuse your relationship with love.
9. Do Things Together
The Internet is full of free games, goodies and communities for couples in long distance relationships. It may sounds strange, since you’re so far apart, but these days you can plan to have virtual dates to maintain closeness. Think about watching a movie together on Netflix or play a game online.
10. Visit
Visit one another at least every 6 weeks if you can — every situation is different. Skype and video chat can maintain things for so long — until someone can manage to integrate touch and smell into tech, in-person visits will have to do. A trip to visit your significant other every once in a while shows your partner that you still care, and that she/he's are still very important to you no matter how far away she/he is.
11. Spice It UpLong distance relationships can go bland quickly, so be sure to spice things up when you can. When you visit, consider meeting halfway, so you can both get away from your daily grind. Don’t just go and visit each other though. Instead, try to create something uniquely you.
12. Be There
Not literally of course, but be there emotionally for your partner. This is a big part of what makes a long distance relationship work. Ask them how their day was, listen to their concerns, and just keep lines of communication open! You’re not in close proximity physically, so you have to make up for that. It’s important that your relationship continues to grow, not just maintains, despite the distance.
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